Why Is Spirituality a Problem for People With Addictions?
Many people with addictions
are put off getting help, because they have heard that there is a
spiritual element to recovery, and they do not feel that they can
function within a spiritual framework. The 12 step
movement, with its focus on a higher power, can be particularly
challenging. Some of the reasons that people with addictions feel
strongly about this include:
Not having a religious background, and feeling uninformed about religion and spirituality.
Feeling that religion is about controlling people, and not wanting
to be controlled or to be part of an approach that controls others.
Recognizing the role of religions in war and other atrocities, and not wanting to be associated with them.
Being an atheist -- believing that there is no God.
Being agnostic -- believing that there is no way of knowing whether
God exists, so it is hypocritical to pretend you know that there is a
God.
Having had an unpleasant or abusive experience with a member of a
church or religious organization, particularly if they were in a
leadership position.
Having experienced or witnessed such severe abuse, pain or
suffering, that the idea of a God who could have prevented this makes no
sense in any positive way.
Feeling uncomfortable with the idea that some religious doctrines
associate human suffering with past failings or wrongdoings, and are
somehow "deserved."
These are all valid reasons for rejecting or refusing involvement in a
religious organization. But they do not, in themselves, exclude you
from discovering your own spiritual path. Many people are able to
connect their spiritual path with an organized religion, but many others
do not require a "religion."
So If Spirituality Is Not the Same as Religion, What Is Spirituality?
Spirituality is part of the human experience in which we explore who
were are and what our life is about. This can include some of the
following:
Getting in touch with your own moral compass -- a way of knowing
what is right and what is wrong according to your own beliefs and
principles. These beliefs do not need to be handed to you by a
religion, you can discover them by exploring your own thoughts and
feelings.
Learning to use your moral compass as a guide for how to live your
life. For example, if you believe it is wrong to lie, finding ways to
live more truthfully.
Respecting yourself and others. People who grow up in abusive
situations may find this difficult, but ultimately very fulfilling when
they achieve it.
Getting perspective on your problems. This includes recognizing
that it is possible to improve your situation with willpower and
support.
Realizing that we all have human weaknesses, and letting go of pride
that may be getting in the way of asking for help if you need it.
Receiving and giving support to others.
Taking it Further
While these are spiritual activities that can help enormously with
most people who are working on overcoming addictions, there are other
spiritual activities that a smaller number of people are able to engage
in. They are not essential to the recovery process, but may lead to a
happier life. Don't put yourself under pressure to do this if you are
not ready.
Discovering your unique gifts and talents, and creating a life that uses them.
Forgiving people who hurt or abused you in the past.
Seeking forgiveness from others.
Gaining new insights -- "learning" from your experiences of addiction.
"Giving back" to the community, for example, volunteering or working in the addictions field or related areas.
Some of the newer approaches to healing, such as mindfulness based therapies,
incorporate Eastern spiritual practices, without a requirement to
believe in a higher power or religion. This can be a good way to get in
touch with your spirituality, without getting embroiled in ambivalence
about your beliefs, or feelings of inconsistency between the therapy and
your beliefs or lack of them.
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